Your first dance is such a special and memorable moment on your wedding day. It’s those precious minutes when everything else fades away, and it’s just the two of you lost in your own world. So, picking the perfect first dance song might seem like a huge task, but it doesn’t have to stress you out.
Whether you’re dreaming of a lavish celebration in the countryside or a cosy city wedding, the right tune will really set the vibe for your love story. Here are some tips to help you find a first dance song that truly reflects your journey together, showcases your personalities, and captures the excitement of starting this new chapter in your lives.
1. Start with Personal Significance
Before diving into genres, trends, or dance choreography, take a moment to reflect on the songs that mean something to you as a couple. Was there a track playing on your first date? A song from a memorable road trip? Or maybe a tune that’s become your go-to for kitchen slow dances?
Your first dance song doesn’t have to come from a movie soundtrack or a viral TikTok trend – it should simply feel like you. When you listen to it, it should bring back memories, emotions, and laughter you’ve shared.
Ask yourselves:
- Does this song remind us of a meaningful moment?
- Are there any artists we both absolutely adore?
If you both bonded over a love of Ed Sheeran, songs like “Perfect” or “Thinking Out Loud” might be natural choices. For others, “Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Elvis Presley or “You Are the Best Thing” by Ray LaMontagne* could capture that timeless, soulful connection.
2. Pay Attention to Тhe Lyrics
A beautiful melody can draw you in, but the lyrics tell the real story. Before you decide on a song for your wedding first dance, read the words carefully. You might be surprised how many popular “love songs” aren’t actually about lasting love.
For instance, “Every Breath You Take” by The Police sounds romantic, but it’s really about obsession and heartbreak – not exactly what you want for your wedding dance!
Look for lyrics that express togetherness, commitment, and joy. Classics like “At Last” by Etta James* or “All of Me” by John Legend* are heartfelt choices that convey genuine emotion without unintended meanings.
3. Think About Tempo and Danceability
Your first dance should feel effortless, not intimidating. The tempo of your song can make a big difference in how natural your dance feels.
If you’re planning a soft, romantic sway, slower tracks like “Come Away With Me” by Norah Jones* or “L-O-V-E” by Nat King Cole* work beautifully.
But if you’re hoping to surprise your guests with a lively performance or a fun choreography, consider something with a little bounce – like “You Make My Dreams Come True” by Hall & Oates* or “Shut Up and Dance” by Walk the Moon.*
Pro tip: Play your shortlisted songs at home and try dancing together. You’ll immediately sense which one feels natural and which might be too fast or too slow for comfort.
4. Match the Genre to Your Personality
Your big day is a reflection of who you are, and your wedding music should be, too. Whether you’re fans of classic rock, country, or smooth jazz, choose a song that aligns with your shared tastes.
Here are some genre-based first dance song ideas to get you started:
- Pop: “A Thousand Years” – Christina Perri
- Classic Rock: “Something” – The Beatles
- Country: “From the Ground Up” – Dan + Shay
- Soul/R&B: “By Your Side” – Sade
- Jazz: “Moon River” – Henry Mancini
You don’t have to stick to one style throughout the day, either. Maybe your ceremony features classical string music, while your first dance brings in your favourite soulful ballad.
The key is to make it feel authentic to you.
5. Make It Unique to Your Story
Your first dance is a once-in-a-lifetime moment – so why not make it one-of-a-kind?
Here are a few creative ideas:
- Choose an acoustic cover. Sometimes a stripped-back version of a popular song can completely change its energy and make it feel more personal. A piano rendition of “Can’t Take My Eyes Off You”, for example, adds a touch of quiet magic.
- Find a hidden gem. Explore deeper cuts from your favourite artists instead of going for their biggest hits. These lesser-known tracks often feel more intimate.
- Go bespoke. If one of you plays an instrument or sings, consider recording your own version or writing a simple love song for your first dance. Guests will be touched by such a personal touch.
6. Practice and Communicate with Your DJ or Band
Once you’ve chosen your first dance song, make time to rehearse. Even a few minutes of practice will help you feel relaxed and confident when the big moment arrives.
Coordinate with your DJ, live band, or venue coordinator to ensure they have the correct version of your song. Discuss timing – when to fade in, fade out, or if you’d like a shorter version. These small details make a big difference in creating a seamless moment.
7. Don’t Overthink It
It’s easy to get caught up in wanting your first dance to be perfect. But the truth is – perfection doesn’t matter. What matters is the connection between you and your partner in that moment.
Even if you miss a step or laugh mid-twirl, those imperfections often become the moments you’ll cherish most. The right song will naturally bring you back to that joy every time you hear it again.
8. Celebrate the Moment
Your first dance marks the transition from the ceremony to the celebration – the moment when the formality gives way to pure joy. Choose a song that makes you want to move, smile, and celebrate the journey ahead.
Uplifting options like “Signed, Sealed, Delivered I’m Yours” by Stevie Wonder* or “Crazy in Love” by Beyoncé and Jay-Z* can set the stage for an unforgettable party.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. How long should my first dance song be?
Ideally, a first dance song should be around 2 to 4 minutes long. This length allows enough time for a meaningful moment without dragging on. However, the focus should be on what feels comfortable for you as a couple.
2. Can we mix different songs for our first dance?
Yes! A mash-up or medley of two songs can create a unique first dance experience. Just ensure the transition is smooth and that both songs resonate with you.
The Perfect Soundtrack for Your Love Story
Music plays a huge role in weddings, creating lasting emotions and memories. Your first dance song should reflect your unique story, whether it’s romantic, joyful, or modern. Just like music, capturing your special moments through photos and videos is essential.
Ready to Capture Your First Dance Perfectly?
At Big Day Productions, we’ve got a network of trusted photographers and videographers across the UK, ensuring you get a consistent, high-quality experience no matter where you are. We’ve done thousands of weddings, from grand to intimate, and we mix the reliability of a big brand with the personal touch of local experts.
Your first dance song deserves to be remembered exactly as it felt – natural, emotional, and full of love.
Get in touch with us today to find your ideal wedding photographer or videographer and let us help you capture every beat of your story.
